By Elishifa Wangeshi
Logging in to one very popular Facebook page I have noted that you will never miss a post of a lady complaining about her cheating Husband, the only thing that differs is how she found out the husband was cheating.
On the other hand I do not support cheating in a marriages /relationships. But during one of my hangouts Friday I realised there is one guy in our ‘’squad’’ who never shows signs of leaving the club be it a Monday,Sunday or a Friday and so many questions lingered on my mind? Is it that he doesnt like his home? Doesn’t he miss his kids? Doesn’t he miss his wife ? and so many more.
I asked a couple of guys why they preferred spending more time kwa bar as compared to being home .
‘’For the last 4 years I have been married to this woman,no single day have I got home from work and she asked me how my day was,Instead she is always nagging ,She has a list of issues I have not done. She makes me feel more overwhelmed than I Already was when I left the office.’’
‘’I was once a family man,always home by 6pm . My wife knew ,I do not eat red meat and cabbage. Everyday for 2 months I would get home I would find our house-help has prepared the same and my wife would act surprised and fix noodles, yes! Noodles and eggs for a grown ass man like myself . When I raised the issue she threw tantrums in front of our kids and to avoid this confrontation i found solace kwa Counter’’
‘’I love my family, more than life itself. The reason I find myself spending more time at the local is my wife’s extended family . There is no free weekend in my house ,either the cousin ,sister,friend is home and it makes me uncomfortable ‘’
Women, before putting the blame on him,could it be you pushed him away?