But in the 21st Century things have changed, a section of men have decided to marry more than 2 wives while others have been entangled to with the ‘’Mpango wa kando’’ who they are not willing to publicly introduce to their respective families.
I don’t understand the famous women quote ‘’Aliniibia bwana’’ a grown man stolen from you, how? keep it in your head He decided to leave.
I personally never support the ‘’mpango wa kando ’ arrangement , but over the weekend I caught up with a friend of mine who is living large and I really wanted to clear the air on the rumors that had going round that she is someone’ s ‘’clande ‘’
Before I could even shoot the question she broke the news
‘’Yes I have been with this married guy for the last 5years and it’s the best move I made in my life’’
But why ? I sought to understand .
‘’He pays my bills by date 5th of every month , He makes sure all my bills are cleared and on top of that He makes sure he sends money for my shopping on time’’
But have you ever asked yourself if He has done the same to his family ?
‘’ Am always there for him , providing a shoulder to lean on when the war at his place is more than the 2nd world war and cold war combined ,
This man is not nagging, he only comes around when he is stressed and when he needs just some good time which he keeps saying his wife forgot once the kids came around .
The other good thing is that I can still keep my boyfriend. He has never opposed the idea of me having another guy as long as I do not cancel our arrangements and to top it up I think he is more compassionate with me than he is with the wife .’’
I was seated there pondering what my friend had told me , and before I could get a sip of my juice she said that to sum it all she can walk away whenever she felt like she had had enough since nothing really ties them together .
We toasted to friendship but in my mind I thought choices have consequences, and not everyone who decides to be the mistress gets these benefits. Sometimes even the best laid plans go wrong, and if you think that things will always work in your favour, think twice.